Do you ever feel like you are just too busy? – That there is too much to do and not enough time to do it in. Welcome to the club; you are not alone. There are many solutions to feeling too busy such as proper time management. Do we really need to read every email the second it arrives? Structuring your time to focus on a project makes you so much more efficient.
But that is not the point of this blog. What I want to address here is how you look at connecting with other people when you feel stressed or over committed. How do you react to those around you? Busy people often shut themselves off from others and stop connecting with the people around them. It can seem like a major imposition to ask them a question, even if they are the only ones with the answer.
If you speak too fast or too bluntly, you will push people away. And once you push people away it is much harder to connect with them in the future. I have learned that no matter how busy I am, I need to invest time in others. Good contact hitters find a way to connect with those around them no matter how busy they are.
Some projects are time sensitive and when working on such projects, you should communicate the situation to those around you. People will appreciate the communication and understand the parameters you are working within.
Note that I use the words “investing” time because that is the proper way to view these interactions. You are not “giving” time, which implies that your own time has little value. Nor should it be perceived as “taking” time which implies that you are begrudgingly taking time from something else.
Investing time in people confirms that it’s a valued expenditure and a clear choice you have made. That’s the proper way to look at it. Connecting with others is an investment – an investment that pays huge dividends in teambuilding, performance, and long term success.
Investing time in people can take many forms. It can be as simple as checking in with them from time to time and finding out how they are doing. It can be showing an interest in their personal lives or doing them a favor. It almost always means answering their inquiries in a timely fashion.
You can also invest time in people by standing beside them while they celebrate their achievements or reflect on their failures. If people know you are there regardless of what happens, you will have a strong connection with them. There are many ways to connect with someone if you “invest” the time to do so.
Check your attitude to determine how you are being perceived by those who want to connect with you. Make sure you are portraying the image that you intend. It is not always easy, but it is well worth the effort to be open to and connect with the people around you.
John Hindle, The Contact HitterShare